“At the end of the day your feet should be dirty, your hair messy, and your eyes sparkling”. Shanti.
Let’s say a Wild Child is born into your family. Do you consider that anything may need to change? Absolutely, unless you want your ego annihilated. Strong words. Perhaps accurate, especially if you do not take a step back and shine a spotlight on your expectations, beliefs, views and opinions about bringing up a Wild Child.
A Wild Child is born into a family when it is time to inwardly challenge the shoulda, coulda, oughta and gotta beliefs you’ve been bought up with. There is a saying that may apply if you find yourself in this situation and that is having a Wild Child is ‘setting a cat amongst the pigeons’ – there will be a lot of kerfuffles.
A Wild Child cannot be tamed, cajoled, manipulated, told what to do, diverted or enticed. They are their own person and if you don’t like that you are in for a wild roller coaster ride. There is another saying, ‘the unexamined life is not worth living’ by Socrates. If you are willing to surrender to this inner investigation, quite possibly triggered by a Wild Child, you may discover stories you’ve been told, and behaviours that are second nature, and what you think is right and wrong may actually be the beliefs and attitudes of others, rather than your own developed wisdom. The very fabric of your ego structures are pushed and squeezed when a Wild Child is gifted into your extended family.
Sure the Wild Child needs boundaries, discipline and loving kind people and environments around them. However, every viewpoint, harsh judgement and useless belief you’ve carved into your personality will be axed and chopped away. If this doesn’t happen you may become firewood for the next burnoff.
Robert R. McCammon says “We all start out knowing magic. We are born with whirlwinds, forest fires and comets inside us. We are born able to sing to birds and read the clouds and see our destiny in a grain of sand. But then we got the magic educated right out of our souls. We get it schooled out, spanked out, washed out and combed out. We get put on the straight and narrow path and told to be responsible. Told to act our age. Told to grow up for god’s sake. And you know why we were told that? Because the people doing the telling were afraid of our wildness and youth, and because the magic we knew made them ashamed and sad of what they’d allowed to wither in themselves”.
The special magic is that when you begin to notice that you too have an inner Wild Child you may give him or her more room to move and space to be. And, when you invite them into your heart you may well discover an abundance of energy, happiness and joy for life that takes you by surprise.
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